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On Desire & Disconnection · May 26, 2026
If your sex drive feels gone, you are not broken. Your libido is responsive, not spontaneous.
Your libido is not broken. It is not gone. It is a feedback loop that has been starved, and it is sitting there waiting for you to feed it again.
Read More →On Moving Forward After Loss · May 19, 2026
When you start to feel anything other than sad after losing your spouse, it can feel like a betrayal. It isn't. Here's what's actually happening.
There is a moment in widowhood that almost nobody warns you about. It is the moment you catch yourself laughing. Or wanting to wear something that makes you feel beautiful.
Read More →On Identity Loss After Grief · May 12, 2026
You did not just lose your person. You lost the version of yourself you were with them.
The worst part is the moment, somewhere around month four or month nine or — for some people — year two, when you look in the mirror and realize you do not know who is looking back at you.
Read More →Grief & Language · May 5, 2026
Why language matters when someone loses a spouse or partner
The word "ex" carries weight. It implies choice. It implies an ending that both people walked toward — or at least walked away from. But when someone dies, there is no walking away.
Read More →Grief & Loss · April 28, 2026
Six weeks after my husband died, the meals had stopped and so had the grace period.
I cannot tell you what I did on day 47. That's not a literary choice. That is the actual answer. I cannot tell you what I did, where I went, what I said to anyone, what I ate, whether I ate.
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