I'm Dr. Ashley Contorno
I see you. I will hold your hand through it. I will witness your pain.
On June 3, 2023, my husband died — at 34 years old. The love of my life. We had been together for nearly a decade. We built a business together, bought property together, shared a life I thought would last forever. When he died, my world shattered.
I know what it feels like to be completely numb. To not be able to get out of bed. To lose your identity entirely and push everyone away. I know what it's like to feel disconnected from your own body — to feel like you're no longer a sexual being. To feel too sad to connect with desire. To feel the weight of society telling you to refrain from wanting, from being wanted, from pleasure itself.
I've been in the darkness. And I fought my way through it. Over years — not weeks, not months — I did the inner work. I allowed myself to feel my way back into my body, starting with the smallest sensations. I created a new sexual identity for myself. Without guilt. Without needing permission. For me.
I built this coaching practice because the support I needed didn't exist. Now it does.
If you're here — whether you're navigating loss, rebuilding your sexual confidence, or both — I want you to know: you are not alone. It may feel utterly impossible right now. But you can grow. You can change. You can become a confident sexual being again.
Think of it like a muscle. It takes exercise and repetitions. Sometimes it will hurt. Sometimes you'll want to quit — and that's okay. As long as you come back for more when the soreness wears off, you're doing it. And I'll be right there with you.
